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Newly Divorced
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19/01/2020 8:46 am  

14 months of hell finally over. I lost the house and car but I keep the television and gaming systems. Anyone have a home I can plug in at? Just kidding lol. I have an apartment now. I spent a year looking forward to this day. I have no money no car and no home but who cares. I am rid of it all. Ive been ghosting for months. Just had to jump in once it was done. Thank you for sharing and making these months easier. I thought it was me. I thought I just failed. I tried everything but nothing worked. I spent months blaming myself until i read what others typed. It was like reading other going through what I did. I have to figure out how to be single again without someone checking in on me constantly. Even while waiting for the divorce to finallize she called to make sure I wasn't breaking the rules of no women. She was always with guys but I had to not do that. I dont understand it but whatever. She drove me crazy. That is my story and Im sticking to it. This is over and Im a free man.


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Aussie
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19/01/2020 8:56 am  

Welcome. You are among friends here.

You made it out alive and now your real life begins.


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Uly The Cunning
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19/01/2020 9:33 am  

I still remember how I felt on the day that my divorce was finalize. I suggest that you don't rush into any relationships/flings. I spent several years after my divorce chasing flings, and it just slowed down my recovery from the whole mess. It wasn't until I gave up on females that I started to really rebuild my life.

I hope the best for you, and for all men who are ghosting. All men are welcome here, and feel free to ask advice or questions from those that have traveled the path. Welcome to the jungle.

"Remember, you're fighting for this woman's honor, which is probably more than she ever did."
Groucho Marx: Duck Soup (1933)


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The Evil Genius
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19/01/2020 7:23 pm  

Sometimes the forest needs to burn to ground in order for new life to spring up! Starting from zero means you have no where to go but up--so the future is bright my friend! Welcome! 


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Xanthine
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19/01/2020 10:16 pm  
Posted by: @newly-divorced

Even while waiting for the divorce to finallize she called to make sure I wasn't breaking the rules of no women. She was always with guys but I had to not do that. I dont understand it but whatever.

Jesus...what an absolute control freak. Living with that must have been pure hell. It's kind of ironic that she didn't want you to be with other women...maybe she wanted to be the last one to fuck your life up? Poetic that she led you right to us. In many ways, that's worse than you finding another woman to replace her with.

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I suggest that you don't rush into any relationships/flings. I spent several years after my divorce chasing flings, and it just slowed down my recovery from the whole mess. It wasn't until I gave up on females that I started to really rebuild my life.

Perfect advice. It will take some time, but you'll slowly piece your life back together, and it will be better than it ever was with her. I'm betting it already is. Always remember what brought you here, and don't let yourself make the same mistakes all over again. After all, you have an entire lifetime of freedom to look forward to! And a lot of lost time to make up for.

Let your happiness and success be a thorn in her side, as she slowly but surely drifts into loneliness, misery, and spinsterhood. 


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Happy The Not Very Happy Clown
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20/01/2020 12:18 am  

Welcome to the site.

We've all been there, mate - albeit to differing degrees, differing levels of suffering and different lengths of time. 

Enjoy the company and the discussion.


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GregBO
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20/01/2020 3:34 am  

Welcome to the site and it is good that you are comfortable enough to post.  We look forward to reading and responding to your posts and hope that you continue to find help within the posts from others.

​"What we have done for ourselves alone dies with us; what we have done for others and the world remains and is immortal." -Albert Pike

​"​My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.​" - Clarence Buddinton Kelland


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Untamed
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12/03/2020 2:20 pm  

You got rid of her like a bad disease and just like when your get better from a medical condition, there's a time to recover. Some of us will never fully heal but we are stronger for it.

 

Don't let them blame, shame or tame you!


Newly Divorced
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12/03/2020 4:10 pm  

You're right @Untamed. I almost got back into it because I felt emptiness at my apartment alone. The guys here really helped me. I took time to think about what I was doing. My dumb behavior made my job unbearable but I got a new one now. Easy to find a job being a tech guy who works for so little money.


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12/03/2020 9:24 pm  
YPosted by: @newly-divorced

14 months of hell finally over. I lost the house and car but I keep the television and gaming systems. Anyone have a home I can plug in at? Just kidding lol. I have an apartment now. I spent a year looking forward to this day. I have no money no car and no home but who cares. I am rid of it all. Ive been ghosting for months. Just had to jump in once it was done. Thank you for sharing and making these months easier. I thought it was me. I thought I just failed. I tried everything but nothing worked. I spent months blaming myself until i read what others typed. It was like reading other going through what I did. I have to figure out how to be single again without someone checking in on me constantly. Even while waiting for the divorce to finallize she called to make sure I wasn't breaking the rules of no women. She was always with guys but I had to not do that. I dont understand it but whatever. She drove me crazy. That is my story and Im sticking to it. This is over and Im a free man.

Pardon me for not saying Hello back more recently, "Morgan".

You could always half open the door and shout back into the house to your gaming system..."See you later love." Then leave. Make sure that when you leave your apartment and shout back (to the love of your life), there is someone (pref female) in the corridor within ear shot. 😉 😆 

 


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